9 solutions for stress in a marriage

We live in a world which is very stressful for all of us. We are constantly under pressure to give our company that much more time and energy in case we lose our job. Added to this are the pressures of family life and the stresses of general life that are going on around us. These and other stresses are being seen to be affecting marriages in general as well as counting towards the large increase in the divorce rate in recent years.

Only the other day I was talking to an advocate who was saying that a large part of her work is made up of divorces, which brings in a big part of her fees each month.

Here are some stress relieving suggestions.

1. Spend time each day to relax. This can be done by simply walking to the water cooler and back every hour so that you release the pressure.

2. Finding a quiet spot at lunch time and sitting with our eyes closed for about five minutes. It is said that this time can do as much as a short sleep can do and does a lot to release stress.

3. Listen to soothing music on the way to work and the way back home again. Listening to the traffic reports and news only leads to more stress.

4. Even if there are deadlines to be met at work try your utmost to have at least seven hours of sleep each night. Rest in a little over the weekend to make up the time you have lost.

5. If you have young kids, try to spend at least an hour when you get home being with them and hearing about their day. It has been found this can be relaxing both for them and you.

6. Spend time with your spouse using at least 15 minutes each, telling the other how your day has gone. Communication is very important in a marriage.

7. Try and spend at least half a day over the weekend for family time together.

8. I am a strong believer that couples need a date night at least monthly. Do something together as a couple for that night. You can get a baby-sitter for the kids.

9. Lastly, if you find you are having problems that you cannot sort out yourselves, go and see a coach or a professional to help you. Often when you have a third person the problem can be solved.